Being an introvert does not mean being a BAD person. Being an introvert does not mean that you don't like people or that you can't be the life of the party some times. Being an introvert means that people can exhaust you. It means that you NEED time to yourself, even away from your significant other.
I don't mind people spending a week with us -- IFF (that's if and only if for the mathematically challenged) they are self-tourists. We've had people stay that long with their own car, which they take out every day and do touristy things WITHOUT us. My worst guest? A friend and her daughter who are extreme morning people. Up at 5:30 am, asleep by 9 pm. When she asked what time I slept, I said 2 am to 10 am, I don't think she believed me. And, of course, she wanted to see Vegas", but couldn't make up her mind what she wanted to see. That can make even three days seem like hell.
On another note, apparently I can't learn from example. Sliced off the edge of my right middle finger with a mandolin after telling myself, over and over, "Remember what happened to Anna." At least no nail involvement or hospital and just a bandage to get in the way of typing. I know how you must miss typing and hope your finger is better soon.
Don't you remember our recent conversation? You are a wonderful person. Just keep remembering how fond you are of your guest and how far, far away she lives.
I work a customer service role at work. I love it. I HATE having visitors (I don't mind visiting them); I just feel like MY space has been invaded. I don't think your reaction at all makes you a bad person.
My ILs are from Small Town, USA... so when they visit, their idea of a visit is to sit in the living room for the weekend. Or, my MIL will send my FIL and my DH out to golf... which turns into a 6 hour adventure and, trust me, after the second hour, I'm ready to hide in my bedroom for the remaining 4.
They were supposed to visit this weekend, then my DH invited his brother to visit next weekend... then DH is flying to San Francisco the following weekend, returning six days later. Three days after THAT, we're off to Alaska. I was irate - that was a little too much in too small a time, especially in terms of seeing his family. For better or worse, he's working this weekend so his parents stayed away.
Hang in there! Personally, I hate having people stay in my house (which is why I do not have a guest room), and I also hate staying in other people's houses. I like my space. I like to be able to get away from everyone. So, perhaps I should stitch that?
I hear you! Even as a little kid I hated having--and going to--sleepovers. BF's parents are dead and mine are even odder than I am and have not been to visit me once since 1989, even though they only live 500 miles away. I visit them as little as possible and only go when the guilt forces me to make the effort.
I know exactly how you feel. Though a very close GF a family, DH and two kids, are coming on Saturday afternoon and leaving on Sunday. This will be fine, as her kids are very well behave and get on very well with our 3 kids. We know a family with 8 kids, and they want to come and stay for a few days, in the middle of winter, and pitch a tent in our back yard. I keep saying to DH that I don't want this to happen, that I just can't do it. He says all will be well. He will be at work!!! I can feel an impromptu holiday coming up I think.
I think that, unless you are an extrovert, having guests will wear on most people after a while, regardless of the guest. I know that I can only handle visiting, or being visited, for so long.
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Being an introvert does not mean being a BAD person. Being an introvert does not mean that you don't like people or that you can't be the life of the party some times. Being an introvert means that people can exhaust you. It means that you NEED time to yourself, even away from your significant other.
I don't mind people spending a week with us -- IFF (that's if and only if for the mathematically challenged) they are self-tourists. We've had people stay that long with their own car, which they take out every day and do touristy things WITHOUT us. My worst guest? A friend and her daughter who are extreme morning people. Up at 5:30 am, asleep by 9 pm. When she asked what time I slept, I said 2 am to 10 am, I don't think she believed me. And, of course, she wanted to see Vegas", but couldn't make up her mind what she wanted to see. That can make even three days seem like hell.
On another note, apparently I can't learn from example. Sliced off the edge of my right middle finger with a mandolin after telling myself, over and over, "Remember what happened to Anna." At least no nail involvement or hospital and just a bandage to get in the way of typing. I know how you must miss typing and hope your finger is better soon.
I hear you!!!! Living in SF we often get guests... on the wall of the guest room is a little sign I will hang up....
"Guests and Fish STINK after three days"
It gets a laugh but drives home the point!
Don't you remember our recent conversation? You are a wonderful person. Just keep remembering how fond you are of your guest and how far, far away she lives.
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I work a customer service role at work. I love it. I HATE having visitors (I don't mind visiting them); I just feel like MY space has been invaded. I don't think your reaction at all makes you a bad person.
My ILs are from Small Town, USA... so when they visit, their idea of a visit is to sit in the living room for the weekend. Or, my MIL will send my FIL and my DH out to golf... which turns into a 6 hour adventure and, trust me, after the second hour, I'm ready to hide in my bedroom for the remaining 4.
They were supposed to visit this weekend, then my DH invited his brother to visit next weekend... then DH is flying to San Francisco the following weekend, returning six days later. Three days after THAT, we're off to Alaska. I was irate - that was a little too much in too small a time, especially in terms of seeing his family. For better or worse, he's working this weekend so his parents stayed away.
Too funny! I think it's perfect! What kind of person does that make me?
Hang in there! Personally, I hate having people stay in my house (which is why I do not have a guest room), and I also hate staying in other people's houses. I like my space. I like to be able to get away from everyone. So, perhaps I should stitch that?
I hear you! Even as a little kid I hated having--and going to--sleepovers. BF's parents are dead and mine are even odder than I am and have not been to visit me once since 1989, even though they only live 500 miles away. I visit them as little as possible and only go when the guilt forces me to make the effort.
I know exactly how you feel. Though a very close GF a family, DH and two kids, are coming on Saturday afternoon and leaving on Sunday. This will be fine, as her kids are very well behave and get on very well with our 3 kids. We know a family with 8 kids, and they want to come and stay for a few days, in the middle of winter, and pitch a tent in our back yard. I keep saying to DH that I don't want this to happen, that I just can't do it. He says all will be well. He will be at work!!! I can feel an impromptu holiday coming up I think.
I think that, unless you are an extrovert, having guests will wear on most people after a while, regardless of the guest. I know that I can only handle visiting, or being visited, for so long.
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