|Lady Gray, Lilybet|
See how she looked last time
I've been thinking a lot about conversation for obvious reasons. I was thinking about other places I have been with stitchers and what we talked about then. I thought about my trips to Oklahoma
I feel only slightly ashamed to admit that I was afraid of the kinds of conversation I imagined people in Oklahoma had. I thought there'd be patriotism—I mean, on our first trip in 2003, the U.S. had just invaded Iraq the month before—I thought there'd be anti-foreigner yammer. I thought we might have to talk about God and Jesus (people did pray openly over their food). (I do want to apologize to anyone who lives in Oklahoma and any other place--ahem, pretty much the whole middle--where I thought this would be the conversation.) In fact, I was so worried I told my friend about my anxiety. "We have a car," she said. "We don’t have to stay if we don't like it." (She's a sensible girl; that's why we're friends.)
I needn't have worried. Not one single person asked me what church I went to or my feelings on the war. We talked about our jobs, and the comedic aspects of some of our coworkers. We talked about our joys and our frustrations. About food we liked and we didn't and how long you should cook green beans. We talked about places we had traveled to and where we wanted to go. We even concocted a hilarious response to the question posed by a husband about the retreat, "What do you do all day?" Seriously, dude? (Our story started with naked pillow fighting; it pretty much ended with naked pillow fighting too.) We talked about farting. We talked about what it must be like to be Amish, and have produced children over a 20 year period, like our dinner host, and how amazing the biscuits and the salad dressing made from bacon fat were.
There are literally hundreds of things you can talk about that don't have anything to do with your kids (and their gestation. How many times do I have to hear delivery stories?).
Here's a list: (let's start with our shared passion) stitching, finishing, framing, stash organization, shopping, blogs, vlogs, movies, books, music, apps, restaurants, food, travel, goals, seasons, holidays, education, current events...this is fun! Why don't you join in in the comments?